Friday, 22 May 2015

But It's Miiiiine!!

"C'mon Pallavi, be a little giving. After all it's only an object. You can get many more of those". 
Countless times, throughout the years while growing up, I'm sure all of us have heard this sentence (replacing my name with yours, of course). Maybe it was a toy, or a dress, or heaven forbid a book! Whatever it may have been, somewhere along the way we have been urged by the adults around us to let go of it. Maybe for a noble reason, or for a humble reason, or for a reason which is still a mystery to us.  We were asked to let go, to long for the joy it gave us but to never experience it again, to possibly never use it again and to give it up. In that moment, when we were trying to think of a clever yet justified reason through which we could still keep it with us, our hands involuntarily clutched it tighter. Clutched it so hard that our knuckles turned white. It was automatic, something which we weren't actively thinking about but was still happening, and with considerable strength. 
This was - and possibly still is - our body's involuntary reaction when we were asked to let go and give up a part of ourselves. 
I suppose becoming someone's friend or loving someone is not entirely different from this. To connect to another person and to allow ourselves to open up we often have to let go a little. Let go of our insecurities, our secrets, our thoughts, our experiences and much much more. It is truly a daunting task. At first we don't want to do any of the above and we hold our emotions and our very essence very close to our hearts. We are terrified of getting hurt.  But little by little the person bedazzles us, surprises us, makes us laugh, and eventually, we take a leap of faith and open up to the person. Sometimes it fails, sometimes we get hurt, sometimes we feel so so stupid. But, sometimes we may even get a little part of them in return. And sometimes the bond that we make with that person becomes the one we cherish the most and rely on the most. It becomes the most important one in our lives, and in their lives too. 
It's just a matter of taking a leap of faith and letting go. 
Since birth, our bodies resist this awful and foreign notion of 'letting go'. We fight against it with our every tooth and nail. Maybe, a day will come, or rather a someone will come who will make us think twice before absolutely rejecting this notion. 
Yes, everyone is afraid of failing and getting hurt. But by taking this leap of faith on that someone, we may get such a blinding, iridescent happiness in our lives, that it makes the daunting task of letting go worth it.

Are you ready to take that leap of faith?

Thursday, 16 October 2014

The Little Things


Oh, That's Not Important - Or Is It? 

 It's the little things that matter in life. The little things that influence our decisions, that change the way we think, that change our lives. The smallest things can make or brake our days. They can become the best days ever, or can degrade to the worst day in the history of time. The smallest things can effect our mood. 
The smallest mosquito bite can fry off every nerve ending present in our body and can make us irritable or at the least distracted. Or even the briefest sweet comment from from our friends can make us happy.
Although the big events do matter, it's the seemingly inconsequential moments that make up the very essence of who we are as a person. These moments usually sneak up on us. We never realise that it's happened, that something, everything, has changed till the aftermath . When we'll be old and wrinkly and a little senile, we'll look back on our lives and realise that it was that small, split second decision that led us to where we are today. It is also these little things that build up over time and transform into the big things. That's how our lives change. It's that unexpected hug, that unintentional brush of the hands, that horrible horribly vindictive comment that just slipped out, that sudden trip that makes you fall flat on your face and that blooming smile directed at you. These moments, these memories are what you have in the end. They are what you remember at the end of the day. They are the things you think about at night. They are the thoughts that give you hope in an impossible situation or they are the memories responsible for the tears in your eyes.

What I'm trying to say is that every little thing matters. Every person, every memory, every thought and every feeling matters. It is what defines us in the end. Each relationship effects us (even the failed ones). They may be amazing ones or they may be the worst mistakes of our lives, but in the end they give us experiences that are invaluable. Memories build up on each other and make up the sum total as who we are.

Have you ever wondered, that person sitting at the back of the class, you know? The quiet one? Who doesn't really talk much? Did you ever wonder how they came to be who they are? Why they would rather be alone and not with people? Perhaps when they were around people, they were made fun of. Or considered not good enough.
That girl, that extremely clingy girl who sometimes (always) annoys you with her neediness. Why do you think she is that way? Why is it that she is desperate to feel important? Has she perhaps always felt neglected and so always tries to make herself important?
That guy, you know, that guy. The casanova. The one who rolls pick up lines off of his tongue as easily as he breaths. The one who's seen with a new girl every other day. Why do you think he has the ability to not get emotionally attached?
And ohh! That person whom you would push off a cliff if you could. That if they breathe in your direction you think it's a provocation to your very soul. Why exactly do you think they hate you? Did you do something to them? Or were they just programmed to make your life a living hell? (not)

Point is everything matters. In our lives. And in others' lives too.
That person who's really mad at you right now? All they want is two words, 'I'm sorry'. Seriously, just try it. Just say it. I know that sometimes it's the hardest thing to in the world. To admit that you were wrong and that all of this is your fault. It's hard. But once you say it, the seemingly two most useless words in the whole of English language, because what you did couldn't possibly be fixed by them, That they aren't possibly enough. Just say it. Because once you say it, you'll feel impossibly better, and your friend, whom you just said this to will too. Even if it isn't quite enough, start small, and then work up.

That friend who's having an absolutely hellish time right now because of whatever that's troubling her. You have no way of making it better for her. It's not in your hands. True. But that doesn't mean that you can't make it better for them. That single smile or that almost laugh you manage to draw out of them in their time of misery, that right there might give them the strength, the motivation to face their problems. Or may even give them that sense of happiness they so needed. It will make it easier on them. Trust me, However inconsequential you feel your actions are, they will definitely make a difference.

Be nice to people. Try not to judge them before you know them. Try to understand because what you think is right may not be right for them. And just do the things. The little things. The things you see no one else doing for them, that need to be done. Take that step, that extra step. And care. Care for them truly and deeply and without inhibitions. Because everything you do for them, everything from wishing them on their birthdays to just being there for them and listening, will help them. Immensely.
And I guarantee it, someone will do it for you too.
And you never know, it might even change your life.


Wednesday, 24 September 2014

Doctor Who???

Who is The Doctor?

(Disclaimer: No Copyright Intended)

So the other day, I mentioned a character from Doctor Who to my friend, and she, while looking at me blankly asked in a very serious tone, 'Doctor Who???' Which would have been funny had she actually known that she was quoting a legendary television show. Thus, today I sit on my computer and spend approximately one and half hours of my life explaining to all of you what this tv show is and why it is so great. And you should not take that lightly cause honestly bro, ain't nobody got time for that...But apparently I do. Anywayyy onto business.

Doctor Who
Doctor Who is a television show which was launched in 1963 (first episode date: November 23, 1963). The genres include SciFi, Drama, Mystery (nail devouring drama), and so much more. The main protagonist of the show is an alien who calls himself 'The Doctor'. He descends from a species of aliens known as the Time Lords, who occupy the planet Gallifrey. An important thing about Time Lords: they are humanoid aliens who have the ability to regenerate twelve times. The television programme features the adventures of The Doctor in his time machine called the T.A.R.D.I.S (Time and Relative Dimensions in Space) which from the outside looks like a blue police box found in the 60's in England and from the inside looks like the coolest, most technologically advanced spaceship ever imaginable. This of course leads to one of the most famous and well-known phrases from Doctor Who "It's bigger on the inside". During his adventures along the way, The Doctor picks up companions who assist him in his adventures, and bring out The Doctors more human side. 
The Eleventh Doctor and Amelia Pond
(Matt Smith and Karen Gillian)

The Twelfth Doctor
(Peter Capaldi)

The Tenth Doctor and Rose
(David Tennant and Billie Piper)

Doctors and their Companions

The show has had many great writers along the years including Russel T Davis and Steven Moffat. No only that, the show has also featured some amazing actors including David Tennant, Billie Piper, Matt Smith, Karen Gillian, Peter Capaldi and so so so many more. 
The show is currently still running on television. Infact, this year is the release of the eighth season starring Peter Cipladi, the Twelfth Doctor with his companion Clara (Jenna Coleman). 
I think the reason to watch this television programme is beautifully put by one of its current main writers, Steven Moffat. 
"It's hard to talk about the importance of an imaginary hero. But heroes are important. Heroes tell us something about ourselves. History books tell us who we used to be, documentaries tell us who we are now, but heroes tell us who we want to be. And a lot of our heroes depress me. But you know, when they made this particular hero, they didn't give him a gun, they gave him a screwdriver to fix things. They didn't give him a tank or warship or an X-ray fighter, they gave him a call box from which you can call for help. And they didn't give him a superpower or pointy ears or a heat ray. They gave him an extra heart. They gave him two hearts. And that's an extraordinary thing. There will never come a time when we don't need a hero like The Doctor."
-Steven Moffat (wirter) in an Interview

I think that right there finishes my point of why anyone should ever watch Doctor Who.
Now go on all of you, turn on those televisions, buckle up and get ready for the greatest adventure of your lives.
In the end, I would just like to say,
"We're all stories in the end. Let's just make it a good one. Eh?"
-The Doctor
Side note:
I just realised that some of you may not be aware of where exactly you can watch this epic television programme mentioned above as it mainly airs in England and America. So just and fyi I'm posting a link  to watch Doctor Who online absolutely free of cost.
Enjoy brah!